Best Laid Plans

Today, I had planned a vacation day because I was invited to a function I was really excited to be apart of. Unfortunately a couple of months back, the person who had invited me and I, got into a huge fight and needless to say I wont be there today. The crazy thing is I am a big planner, so months ago I knew what I wanted to bring to the event and what I would have worn. I was sooo excited and couldn't wait because I was going to share in something that was truly awesome with someone I thought was amazing. So flash-forward to today when I was talking to my mother, who said something thought provoking as usual; she said we have to accept our circumstances not as a victim but as a victor. Understand that we are exactly where we are suppose to be in the grand scheme of things and that each action even the disappointing ones are there to help you progress. The idea is to take pride in it all, good and bad, because it makes you who you are. And I understand what she is saying but I think we can all agree that is a very tall order. I think we mostly have difficulty with it because in order to achieve that type of mindset you have to really be able to give it to God and not stand in the way. All to often we stand in our own way, trying to do what we think has to be done in order for us to breath, live, love, etc. We get so wrapped up in our plans, goals, deadlines that when things don't go according to the plan we become lost. This event was a big deal for me, maybe more than it should have been and I am finding it hard to accept that me not being there is the best thing in the long run.

So my question to the group, is what do you do when your plans don't go... well, as planned

A Love that will Last!

Okay so this is the very first post of my very first blog and I honestly spent all night thinking about what type of tone, style and format I wanted to use. As I was thinking I realized I just didn't want to choose one so I'm going to incorporate them all. So I warn you now if you aren't into the musings of an ADD blogger get off this train..now!

Ok, now that we've gotten that settled; I have always felt a connection and appreciation for music that could move me. Songs that stick with me for any particular reason I call my theme song. Today's theme song comes from Renee Olstead and it's called "I want a love that will last" - I know I know sappy right, but hey I guess I am in a sappy mood. So anyway, I was watching "Ugly Betty" and they played this song during the wedding dance and it caught me immediately. I googled the song while the episode played in the background. And I wasn't surprise to find that it was sung by Renee; though I do have to say I was shocked the first time I heard Renee's voice come out of the slightly ditzy Madison Cooperstein on "The Secret Life of the American Teenager." She has a voice reminiscent of Billy Holiday, Etta James and Nora Jones but with her own unique twist. She is really working the don't judge a book by its cover slogan. Anyway, this song wins the spot as my theme song for the day because lately I have been thinking a lot about love and what it means to me. Not just the meaning but what are our expectations and are they even attainable. We all have our lists, men just as much as women, about what love will look like and what is and isn't love. "Oh... my guy will bring me flowers once a week, she'll take care of me when I am sick or we wont be able to go a day with out talking, etc." But isn't a lasing love just when the people experiencing it are able to withstand the test of time and remain in sync?  I always thought I knew what love was for me; that I had seen and experienced enough to know what I wanted and was willing to withstand for a love, but I was mistaken.  Because I am in a place where I thought I had great love securely in my grasp only to find out it was ephemeral not eternal, I sing to the heavens as well asking for a love that will last. If you're in the mood for a love that will last click below and enjoy.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX7b0th8g3I&feature=related